Mental wellbeing

Can you talk to your primary care provider about anxiety?

How to raise anxiety concerns at a primary care visit, prepare a few details, and leave with a clear next step.

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Yes. A primary care visit is a good place to start if anxiety or persistent worry is affecting your day. You do not need to know whether you have an anxiety disorder before bringing it up. Your provider can listen to what has been happening, help you consider next steps, and discuss whether a referral would be useful.

Notice what you want to discuss

Before your visit, write down a few examples of what you have noticed. When did the worry begin? How often does it come up? Has it affected your sleep, concentration, work, relationships, or usual activities? Note anything that seems to make it better or worse. A short list is enough; you do not need to keep a detailed diary.

Bring a list of the medicines and other products you take, including nonprescription medicines, vitamins, herbs, and supplements. You can also note any recent stress or life changes you think may be relevant. If you are unsure whether something matters, you can say so and let your provider ask more.

It may help to write down your main question before the appointment. That way, you have something to refer to if you feel nervous or the visit moves quickly. If you would be more comfortable speaking in another language, contact the office ahead of time to ask for an interpreter.

Start with a plain sentence

You could say, “I’ve been feeling anxious, and it’s affecting my day,” or “I’ve been worrying a lot and would like to talk about it.” Reading from your notes is fine. You can also tell your provider that discussing mental health feels difficult.

If the appointment was booked for another concern, mention anxiety near the beginning. That gives you and your provider a chance to decide what can be covered during the visit and whether another appointment would help.

Describe the experience in your own words. Share how long it has been happening, how often it occurs, and what it makes harder to do. Mention other symptoms or health concerns, even if you are unsure whether they are related. It is okay not to have an explanation for why you feel this way.

Leave with a next step you understand

Your provider may ask more questions, discuss options, suggest a follow-up visit, or refer you to a mental health professional. A referral is one possible next step; it does not, by itself, mean you have a particular diagnosis.

Ask what the recommendation involves and why it may fit your situation. If you are uncomfortable with an option or do not understand it, say so. You can ask about alternatives and what to expect next.

Before leaving, make sure you know whether you need to arrange another visit, whom to contact with questions, and what to do if your concerns change. Take notes or ask for written instructions if that would help you remember the plan. You can ask your provider to explain an unfamiliar term in plain language.

Know when help cannot wait

A routine appointment is not the right place to wait out a crisis. If you or someone you know is having thoughts of suicide or is in emotional crisis, call or text 988 or use the 988 Lifeline chat. In a life-threatening situation, call 911.

Sources

  1. National Institute of Mental Health: Tips for Talking With a Health Care Provider About Your Mental Health
  2. National Institute of Mental Health: Caring for Your Mental Health
  3. MedlinePlus: Talking With Your Doctor

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